The type of therapy I practice is Person-Centred and experiential psychotherapy. This is based on the work of Carl Rogers whose body of work recognised the importance of certain human qualities. Rogers believed it is inherent within all of us to grow and expand what it means to be us, to evolve to be the best version of ourselves possible, but that this natural tendency can be thwarted in adverse conditions. As frightening as this may sound he also provided much research which demonstrated that given the right conditions we are able to make the changes we seek.
I am not a classically-orientated Person-Centred psychotherapist, I work very much with the experiential side of my training. The analogy I like to use is that of looking at a map; you tell me the direction you would like to go and I offer you different ways of getting there. I won't tell you which direction to go in, that's your choice, but I will help you navigate the path you choose.
Following our time together clients tell me they sleep better, have better work and personal relationships, feel less burdened by stress - that they are living more authentic lives. I have helped people from all walks of life manage and find new ways of living with issues such as …
• Addiction (drugs / alcohol / sex / media)
• Anxiety and stress
• Dysfunctional family dynamics
• Historic childhood trauma and abuse (sexual / emotional / verbal / physical)
• Lack of confidence / self-esteem
• Loss (in its varied forms) and bereavement
• Making peace with an AB side
• Relationship difficulties
• Psychiatric and personality disorders (bipolar / borderline personality disorder)
• Self esteem/ confidence/ self-identity
• Suicidal thinking
My specialism is formative trauma in its many and varied forms including sexual, verbal, emotional and physical abuse, boarding school survivors and adoptees. I support clients who experienced formative abuse as they address the painful events of their childhood and embrace a different way of living.
Sometimes early experiences have helped an Adult Baby (AB) side evolve. I help men and women who identify as ABs move away from binge / purge cycles, I help them find a healthier way to manage any guilt and shame they may have and make peace with their little side. Of course this is not the case for all ABs; if you identify as an AB and you are in peace with this side of yourself - go you!
There are many different types of therapy, but the most important factor is choosing someone you feel comfortable with. We now know the the relationship between client and therapist is one of the most significant factors affecting the outcome of therapy. This is why it is important to choose a therapist who feels like a good ‘fit’ for you. Someone who it feels easy to be with as you change and heal, someone you feel safe with as you explore what is troubling you. If you're unsure if therapy can help you, feel free to contact me to discuss this.
As yet the fields of counselling, therapy and psychotherapy are not regulated. If you are entrusting your mental health to someone, I believe it ought to be someone registered with a professional body and accountable to their code of professional ethics. You can find the UKCP's Code of Ethics here.